So in the past few days, I have repeatedly seen several statuses that state such person's house is always open if others ever need to talk. A great way to start a conversation about mental health! I love it, but I am going to be that person to remind you that 'people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care' and this entails selfless and genuine questions like 'how are you?' and really be attentive to what's not being said just as much as the response itself. I, as a person with anxiety and depression, cannot see myself calling for help. Most of these suicides happen because they did not reach out for help and we stay behind wondering why; we are perplexed at the fact that the person did not look like the type to do such thing. 'He was so happy!' is what irks me the most when a life is cut short. I am lucky to have an amazing support system that I can rely on. I am not in danger to myself. However, others aren't as fortunate. So let's be more outspoken about this.
When you are out with friends, put your phone down and enjoy of each other's company. Call them out! If they're having a hard time being out in social outings, you can catch it and address it. If they're simply on Facebook or checking their texts, ask if they need to be elsewhere; maybe they have a friend that needs them. Communication is key. I've learned this time and time again. Be straightforward and caring. That's the best way to handle this, I believe.
I am an open book. You can tell from my more personal (and very old) blog. It's all out there. In a way, I have been reach out for help, in a subtle way, and to write it out helped me find an outlet to the voices in my head. So if you are having a hard time and you're reading this, you're still here. Your friends mean well. SPEAK UP! The world still needs you. We are put in this Life for a reason, find it.
I know it's easier said than done. I am still in the process of reinventing myself. A newer and better version of me. It is a hard road, but well worth it putting the effort because you are worth it. It's hard to ask for help, but try. Push yourself to do something with someone whose company you enjoy. Surround yourself with the positive people in your life. Laughter is the best medicine and sharing a laugh with a friend is priceless. Please, give this some thought and next time you are having a bad day, reach out to this advice.
Oh, and one more thing,
[… Relax. Take it Easy.]